Author: tristyla

Manifesting Abundance: Your Home as a Reflection of You!

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After cleaning and decluttering my house, I noticed how my built-in shelves, once bare, and kitchen cabinets, once sparse, are now overflowing with dishes, glassware, and decor. In the living room and dining area, I remembered saving for my beautiful couch and upgrading from IKEA (items without assembly). My IKEA bookshelf still brings joy, and I love showroom visits; however, it was an accomplishment to be able to buy a couch from a bespoke furniture store. Everywhere I looked, I saw before-and-after images: once empty spaces, now filled with layers of furniture and decor collected over the years.  

As I continued organizing the contents in this large white armoire, a Craigslist find if you can believe it, I found an old picture of my living room when I had just bought the couch. The silk pillows were fresh and fluffy, the space around the couch empty, the walls bare except for several swatches of material to decide on colors for the walls and curtains.  

For the first time in a long time, I soaked in my apartment as if drinking in every color, all the dimensions of objects big and small, the weight, the memory of when and where the item was found, and the people who have come in and out of my life and in and out of these rooms. The mental exercise of recalling the empty state to the current state revealed to me that I am a powerful manifestor. I took the empty apartment with white walls and transformed it into my beautiful sanctuary brimming with life. A place with color, textures, and comfort. A place filled with little treasures to behold and stories to recount of the laughter, the tears, and even the anger.  

Sometimes we doubt our ability to get to our next dream. We seek confirmation of proof, a concrete example of our ability to create, to master not just our thoughts and beliefs but our energy. Our homes are a time capsule of the version of ourselves who created and embodied the life we built within these walls. If you ever need to convince yourself that you can create, think of your home. Because you thought it, believed it, and did it. Look around your home. You will see the transition in taste, the increase in your vision, the ease with which you live in this version of yourself that you not only created but expanded into. I remember when I wanted the beautiful couch and chairs, the sumptuous rugs, the silk curtains, and now I have lived that version of myself for many years, so I will reflect on the before and after picture as I bring forth my next vision. 

I mention this because, as I continue to improve my life and reach my next set of wishes for myself, I keep hearing the advice that one must embody the next version of oneself to call in one’s desire. That we should ask ourselves, does this next action, thought, or belief represent the next version of yourself? Would the next version of yourself wear that item or replace it? Would the next version of yourself make the decision to insert whatever it is (go to school, take that trip, take that job, go to the gym, spend time with people who are negative)?  

Therefore, if we can align with gratitude for all that we have accomplished so far, and remind ourselves about how capable we are at creating our world from our desires and thoughts, we can get to that next version of ourselves, that version who lives with ease, joy, love, peace, excitement, passion, and financial overflow. Because we have created from nothing. Our homes are a reflection of abundance. Our vision that was once just an idea or a wish. If you are still building your space, reflect on an area in your life—like a class, sport, skill, or hobby—that began as a thought and grew through your talent and passion. This demonstrates your power to create the life you envision. 

Where we are today is the answer to prayers we once had. Your spouse, your children, your partner, your school, your job, your home, your clothes, your car, your city, all these things were called in by you. You built through your thoughts, beliefs, and magnetized it with sheer faith and knowing that these things are yours, no negotiation required.  

So, you may say to me, that is great, but right now my life is chaos, and everything is falling apart. To that, you are one good thought and feeling away from returning to a place of power. What we focus on grows, so grow the positive thoughts and feelings. When you get angry, sad, and upset, then go for a walk, dance, shake out the energy, and ask your angels to cut cords and ties, say aloud or in your head that you release the energy and return to sender. If you have sage or palo santo, light it and clear the energy in your house and around your body. Listen to beautiful music or solfeggio frequencies, listen to affirmations or subliminal positive affirmations, get sunshine, drink water, recall memories that always make you feel happy, loved and at peace. Ask your angels to fill you with love, hope, and peace before you go to sleep at night, and ask them to bless you with restorative sleep. Forgive whoever has hurt you, speak your peace, go places, allow your inner child to laugh, to speak, and to play. Detox from toxic people. Examine what is causing you to stay in the downward spiral through journaling, therapy, and walks with your bestie. Journaling about your feelings is an excellent way to help you uncover what is really bothering you. Do not stay stuck. Move your body to clear your mind and energy to have more for yourself. Give to yourself first before helping others.  

What is your before-and-after picture that shows you how powerful you are? Reflect on that when you feel like your next goal or vision of your future self is impossible to reach. It is within you. Have faith and ask for help; your angels and guides are always listening and need you to ask them for help due to free will. Go gett’em tiger, mon Cherie, mon Amis, you got this!  

Ask for What You Want

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Manifestation reminders

I am redoing a room in my home. Updating the floor, painting the walls and ceiling, upgrading the outlets and adding cabinets for a walk-in closet, a desk for office use.

Turning a room into a multi-purpose room. This change reminds me of a few facts.

  1. Ask for what you want and be specific 
  2. It is always overwhelming and darkest before a change
  3. Your original vision can change over time and that is okay
  4. The change is an idea that takes shape (like your desire)

This small project is a great metaphor for many aspects of life. The room was always a guest bedroom, with a nice pretty bed and bedding, chest of drawers, bed side tables. However, having so few house guests the room has morphed into more a second closet, storage and dressing room. Although there is a closet in that room and a closet in my bedroom, this room has been over-powered by stuff.

The clutter and visual mess began to stress me out even with cleaning and constant organizing. Also, now that I work from home, I am moving my desk from the dining room to this room, to decrease clutter and reduce the subtle anxiety one feels when looking at stuff. It just dawned on me that I have been asking the universe for abundance, and it (the universe) has granted me my wish through piles of clothes, shoes, books, Christmas ornaments and things. This is a great reminder to be more specific and state financial abundance and overflow as the wish. Thank you for that epiphany!

I had only a few weeks to put this idea into motion. I had pictures saved from Pinterest and shared with the handyman. He created the design based on my wish list and pictures and we arranged the timing and details of the project, the easy part. I had to face that room, the mountain of stuff (queue the dark music where you meet the villain in the story). I pulled everything out of the room and gave the bed, bedding away and a side table. Yet, I still had a ton of things to sort through. My living room/dining room looked as if it was a sorting area at the Goodwill, piles of things on couches, chairs, the floor.  Also, as the remodel started there was dust everywhere. My friend reminded me that it is always a disaster and messy during a house project but then it always looks great in the end. I agree, it is a great metaphor for how it is darkest before the dawn. The sun does rise, everything will be worth the challenges, but the first steps are the hardest, most difficult and overwhelming.

This change in purpose for this room from guest room to multi-purpose room is a reminder that as we grow and live our lives, what we desire changes. Our desires and ourselves are not fixed immutable objects. We are fluid and have different ideas, wishes and beliefs. So maybe we have outdated beliefs and will respond in different ways now. We have the power to go in a different direction. I will remind myself of this point as some beliefs I hold about money and career can now shift. The traditional methods and expectations are not the only available options. The room does not need to be only a guest room; it can fit my new needs. I have outgrown the traditional concept for this room and that is okay. Where have you outgrown a traditional or inherited belief? 

The other aspect of this remodel that is a great reminder about life is that all change no matter how big or small takes shape as an idea. We have ideas about what we desire. Our job is to believe and resonate with the idea of our wish. To go from want and need to describe our desire to will, know and have your wish. Pictures of beautiful walk-in closets caught my eye. I started saving pictures. I started to believe that I could have this beautiful and functional space. I looked on my iPhone album titled Closet/Office/Guest Room and noticed that my first picture was saved in 2021, so 4 years of formulating the picture after having the idea. 4 years of improving my self-talk to believe that I am worthy of and can have this room. Changing my speech from I need, or I want this room to I will have this room and knowing that one day this will be my new reality. Everyone’s timing will be different (hopefully faster than mine). So, this closet has been a great illustration of manifestation in motion from recognition of a desire, stating the wish (asking for what you want), identifying with the wish and knowing the wish is my reality, to the current state where the internal desire is now externally expressed.

I encourage you to think about where in your life you created something and think about the process you went through from when you first had the idea, to recognizing what you really wanted, to refining the wish and believing it was yours to when your wish was achieved (externally expressed). Remember the process so that for your next seemingly impossible outlandish wish that you desire to manifest, you can look at a time where you successfully created something out of nothing to encourage yourself to keep going, because you KNOW that the desire is yours already, enjoy the process!

You are magic! Your thoughts, feelings and beliefs hold the key to your transformation.

Feel Halloween Candy Rich!

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It’s that time of year, where the seasons change, the air starts to chill. School has started, and everything pumpkin spice and all that’s nice is available. Can I say pumpkin spice lattes and cinnamon-scented candles? In many regions, the fall leaves change color to those beautiful yellow, gold, orange, and dark red hues.

I thought of a creative way to help you reach for a better feeling thought. To help you visualize and affirm abundance. Think yourself Halloween candy rich! Remember when you were young (I apologize if this thread is not relatable, I know many countries do not celebrate Halloween, try to imagine a childhood experience where you received sweets effortlessly). Remember when we would dress up in a costume? It did not matter if it was homemade or store-bought. When you are young, the act of dressing up and trick or treating is a thrill. You take on a new persona hiding behind a mask of your choosing. You get to choose your character. You can be cute, silly, scary. You get to fill your bag, plastic pumpkin, or pillowcase with FREE candy. Of course, you expect to have fun and get your fair share of candy. There is no doubt about your candy empire’s success. You know where to go in the neighborhood or which neighborhood to find your candy pile. You confidently attract the best candy by being your scariest, silliest, or cutest self. Do you remember how you would lose your mind when you received a FULL-Size candy bar? How satisfied and unexpected that felt? How you would dance with pure joy at the end of the night as you sort and count through your pile of loot? Candy to a child is the same as GOLD. Frankly, I still love candy and feel like it’s gold (thus a few extra pounds), but I digress.

That is the feeling I want you to have, the Halloween Candy Rich feeling. The belief is that the candy is precious and belongs to you effortlessly. The treats come to you when you are having fun. The candy is a metaphor for abundance. When you trick or treat, you ask and receive, naturally following the Law of Attraction. Tap into that feeling when you feel nervous or anxious about money or a situation. Relax, have fun, have faith that everything will work out for you because it always does.

Keep on seeking! Keep on dreaming!

Oops, I did it again!

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I was on a roll. I felt like things were going smoothly, which made me feel good. I knew I was on a good streak. Conversations were easy without any miss understandings. I’m on track with work. I kept all of my workout promises to myself. Can I say miracle!! I received a lot of fantastic feedback about my book and felt elated.

Then something and someone upset me. I couldn’t stop thinking about it. So I performed a mental autopsy of the causes for the behavior. You know that thing some of us do. Where we dissect a person, their motives, background, statements, choices. Then, like a surgeon, we cut away at every word. Stripping layer by layer, trying to see the absolute truth of the situation and identify the signs we missed pointing to our current realization and disappointment.

I believe that it’s okay and human nature to discuss things that bother us. However, we need to let it go and always keep that to a minimum. We cannot dwell on it because it blocks and delays our good. Therefore, if we cannot be disinterested in the negative, we need to replace it.

How? Why? What? Are you thinking that too? I sometimes pull Angel cards. Each card has a saying which should address the question you asked before selecting the card. For example, sometimes I pick the card that says: Let It Go.

I used to be annoyed to see that, but now I had an epiphany and understood it. It means to stop thinking about something, give it a rest. Place your focus on something enjoyable instead. It can be anything but stop your negative thoughts and, therefore, a downward energy spiral.

This Misconception about the advice to let it go has opened my eyes. The new understanding has clicked.

Now I know to stop. Redirect my thoughts and feelings towards what I want. Maybe something simple like a cupcake or a vision about something I desire, like a vacation or of course a fabulous purse, shoes or jewelry, oh my!

Daydream about the possibilities without any limitations. Have fun. We will know when we let go of the item we focused on when we see that we are in the flow and good things happen quickly.

Keep on seeking! Keep on dreaming!

Failures are Successes in Disguise

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Failure has been my ultimate teacher. At first, you try the same responses and patterns of behavior to cope/fix the problem. Then as no positive movement occurs, you are forced to reflect on how did I get here? What can I do to improve this situation? The famous quote from Albert Einstein reminds us that the definition of “insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.” The book Table for One, a story about the journey to self-love, is based on personal failures and mistakes. It explores the process when one recognizes the shortcomings that are consistently appearing in ones’ life and the ownership of those issues.


Once accountable, understanding that actual changes in thoughts, feelings, and behaviors will be required to move the situation from negative to positive. I am shining the light on my personal blunders and erroneous ideas and expectations in relationships, finances, friendships, and career to show that the outcome can be different/better than initially imagined. I am sharing this personal glimpse into my life to entertain and provide examples for inspiration. When I was going through my most painful challenges and issues, I felt lost and unable to articulate my pain. I did not know what I needed. All I knew was that I could not continue to live in fear and chaos and had to fix real problems or possibly lose my home and my livelihood.

Let’s reexamine those areas in our life where we have been unsuccessful and ashamed. Let’s stop the old dialogue in our head that reprimands and judges us. Instead, let’s imagine anything that makes you feel good immediately. Then change your thoughts, believe that the situation can be better, and align your actions towards the new expectations. Watch for signs of improvement. That’s what I share in the story Table for One, a story about the journey to self-love. Check out the story to see the examples (Amazon).

Keep on seeking, keep on dreaming! Do not be afraid of failure; it’s just the beginning of your story.

Mini Mani Miracle

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The other day I was in desperate need of a manicure. Due to a busy work schedule, time ran away from me, and I called the nail salon mid-week to schedule the appointment. Unfortunately, when I reached the receptionist, she informed me that there were no Saturday or Sunday appointments available for the week. I was disappointed as I had my heart set on Saturday morning at 11 am. I booked my manicure for the next best time which, was Friday at 5:30 pm. I was flexible and agreed to the new date and time.


The rest of my week was consumed by work. The week flew by but, in my mind, I kept picturing myself at the salon on Saturday at 11 am. I imagined what I would do in the morning before my appointment. I told myself I would get a coffee at Starbucks before. I thought about the color I would choose, sitting in the beautiful chairs, chatting with the manicurist. Friday comes and, I have the same thoughts. I ended up working later than I planned and, 5:30 came and went. I never went to the salon. It never registered in my mind that I had an appointment at 5:30. The salon never called me to ask me if I was coming to my scheduled appointment. Instead, I worked, had dinner, watched TV, spoke on the phone with friends and, kept believing that my manicure was planned for Saturday at 11 am.


Saturday arrives. I wake up, get dressed, drive to my appointment. I walk into the salon stating that I have an appointment at 11 and who I had scheduled with. The receptionist said you are not in the appointment book.


She asked the two ladies I requested if they will take my appointment. They said yes, they needed to wrap up their current client and then will be able to accommodate me.
I was able to get my coffee before my appointment and have my manicure, although I was told that there were no appointments available during the weekend.


I realize that I had manifested easily what I had wanted, a manicure at 11 am on Saturday. I forgot the fact that there was no availability when I called to schedule. That detail slipped my mind. I believed that I would have my appointment. I never doubted it. I also did not think about the opposite of my desire. There was no self-doubt, no pessimistic scenario, no plan b, no thoughts other than I have an appointment at 11 am on Saturday.


I am sharing this funny example of the power of our thoughts and beliefs. I finally attracted what I want and had the appointment align with my strong desire and faith. I finally focused only on what I want and not what I do not wish for.


Wishing you a mini mani miracle or any miracle you choose.


Keep on seeking! Keep on Dreaming!

Seize your Moments of Joy and Wonder

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As spring is nearing an end, we are reminded of the brevity of life.
I dreamt that I was driving down the city streets, and among the high rises and buildings were the most beautiful cherry trees with long sweeping boughs laden with plump blossoms causing the branches to bend towards the ground. The blooms were a variety of colors ranging from light pink, bright pink, mauve to red. These colors are not usually associated with pale pink or white cherry blossoms. The variety of colors were stunning and made me stop and take notice of what I was beholding.

Curious about the dream symbolism, I searched for the potential meaning in an online dream dictionary.

In the dream dictionary, cherry blossoms symbolize two main themes.

Per the online dream dictionary, dreammoods.com, the definition is below.

Cherry Blossom Tree

To see a cherry blossom tree in your dream symbolizes feminine power, beauty, and love. The dream may be telling you that you can be both strong and delicate at the same time. Alternatively, dreaming of a cherry blossom tree symbolizes mortality. It may also be a reminder that life is short and to take advantage of what life has to offer.

As a strong woman, I already identify feminine as beautiful and powerful.

I intuitively felt that the exquisite beauty and vibrant colors of the dream cherry blossoms were a reminder of how fleeting life is and that it is time to enjoy life more than working to support it. I have focused too much on my career and meeting other people’s deadlines and objectives. I must be careful to not overlook the milestones of my life.

This dream was a powerful wake-up call for me to start reducing my hours at work and make time for joy, laughter, love, and new adventures.

I hope you are making time to live for yourself and show up for yourself and your loved ones in meaningful ways.

Searching for happiness?

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“What you seek is also seeking you.” Rumi, 13th-century poet.

I came across this famous quote from Rumi that reminded me of our power to create our world and manifest our dreams. In short, to create happiness because we are creators. It also confirms that no matter what we call something, this spiritual wisdom is ancient and universal. Rumi’s insightful observation predates modern concepts of the Law of Attraction and the power of thought. However, the tenet illuminates that all of these spiritual concepts are linked, universal and timeless. These ideas guide us to connect our thoughts, intentions, faith, and emotions towards what we desire. We need all the elements aligned within ourselves to create the goal, actualize it into reality.

Many of us seek the tools to align our thoughts, feelings, energy, and faith towards our goals and wishes. Focus is challenging due to the myriad of activities that divide our attention, such as work, family, and health. The answer is to go within through meditation while focusing on what we want more often than what bothers and upsets us. Also, we need to find ways to neutralize or minimize our anger, doubts, and fears.

Therefore, let us direct our thoughts, feelings, intentions and bind them with faith, the magic of belief, to bring forth our desired outcomes. We need to remember that if something does not appear as one hoped for, then perhaps it was paving the way for a better result. Stay open to possibilities. Do not confine yourself to only one way your desire can manifest. Remember, the principles work regardless of the quality of our thoughts. Therefore, we must be careful about what we think of and dwell on. Whatever has our attention is what we are aligning and attracting (negative or positive). When you see this famous quote, it is a reminder of your great power to create the happiness you seek.

Keep on seeking! Keep on dreaming!

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Stop and Sip the Rose Latte

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The other day I was stressed out about work, tired, and frustrated by the issues I face daily at the office. I work for a large company with a distinct organizational culture. It can be challenging to navigate this company successfully and meet deadlines. I decided to have lunch with a friend to get some fresh air. Afterward, we stopped at an adorable cafe to have a decadent treat, a rose latte.
Miraculously this drink shifted my mood from negative to positive quickly. I squealed with delight as I looked at the pretty beverage. As I sipped the drink, tension melted away. This white chocolate latte had the subtle taste of rose and was beautifully decorated with a mountain of whipped cream and had a mini pink dried rose placed in the center. It was sprinkled with finely ground pistachio and rose. The subtle hint of rose wafted by my nose each time I lifted the cup to take a sip. The adage, stop and smell the roses, can be interchanged with stop and enjoy a latte (insert your drink), a rose latte. This simple activity refocused my thoughts onto something pleasant and changed my mood.
I need to add this to the arsenal of tools next time I feel overwhelmed by negativity. This rose latte helped me reach for a better feeling thought, that per the book the Law of Attraction, is essential for manifesting what you desire. We need to feel our way to our desires. A general feeling can neutralize a negative one and increase your attraction point to what you want. Therefore, reducing the energy towards what we don’t want. As we know, it is easy to focus on things that bother us and continue that downward spiral of feelings. Currently, many of us are unable to sit in a restaurant or café. A latte to go or delivered can still do the trick, as we sip and enjoy our favorite latte and remember how great it feels to have one in a beautiful place with our friends. Cheers!


Picture of rose latte, Utopia Latte from Utopia Café located at the Tustin District, Tustin, California. GO ahead, stop in and have a treat.

Welcome!

tristyla

I am a new author publishing my first book. I am writing a blog to share my story with others and to reach and connect to new readers, people and ideas.  Publishing my first book has forced me to be patient, consistent, diligent and hopeful.  It has reminded me that no one is your cheerleader unless you believe in yourself.  There have been many no’s, many rejections which made me look for my own path, to self-publish.  As I launch and promote the book, I hope you will join me and take a look inside the book once it is available for sale.  I am just starting the public phase of this publishing journey. I hope to meet and share ideas with you and I thank you for stopping by to this author website.  Be well!